Arlington-bred 'Bachelor' is holding the rose this time

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Posted 7:40am on Saturday, Jan. 05, 2013

Sean Lowe is a real catch.

He's handsome, athletic, outgoing, successful and single.

He's also what you might call a hopeless romantic.

His master plan is to meet the woman of his dreams, marry her and spend the rest of his life with her -- the same way his parents, together for 35 years and counting, did it.

So why does this 28-year-old Arlington native feel he needs to go on a TV reality show to achieve that?

Can't a guy like Lowe, someone with so much to offer, meet desirable and marriageable women without becoming the Bachelor?

"I hear that question a lot," Lowe says. "Maybe I don't need the show to find a good woman. But what if the woman who's meant for me happens to be waiting to meet me on this show? I owe it to myself to find out."

So Lowe, who had his heart broken last year when he was a potential suitor on The Bachelorette, decided to give TV romance another try.

The season premiere of the 17th edition of The Bachelor is 7 p.m. Monday on ABC.


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Lowe -- an Arlington Lamar High School grad (class of 2002) who played college football at Kansas State -- lives in Dallas. He's the entrepreneurial brains behind The Factory Girl, an upscale custom furniture business in Forney. He comes from a close-knit family, and he has great friends in his life. Except for being alone when he's ready to settle down, he's got it all.

Maybe the new show will fix everything.

We talked with Lowe last week about his experiences on The Bachelor.

How did you happen to get mixed up with this crazy show?

It starts with being on The Bachelorette. I was walking my dogs in August of 2011 and I had my phone and an unknown area code was calling. I answered and it was someone from the casting department for The Bachelorette. That came as a shock to me, because I didn't submit my name for the show.

I quickly came to realize that my sister was behind it.

My first instinct was to say no. I didn't want to subject myself to all that craziness. But the lady at the casting department said, "Why don't you think about it? It could be a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to travel and to do some very neat things."

So I thought about it and then called back and said, "You're right. It is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I'll give it a shot." That's how it all started."

But you signed up not believing you would actually fall in love?

I didn't think it was possible. I never thought I would actually develop real feelings for Emily [Maynard, that season's Bachelorette]. I thought everything on that show was manufactured and staged. I was doing it strictly for the experience and the travel.

Then, several weeks into it, I started to develop feelings for Emily. And as the weeks continued to progress, those feelings got stronger and stronger. I came to a point where I could really see myself being with Emily. And when she let me go at our final destination in Curacao, I was heartbroken.

That led to the producers calling me a couple of months later to be the Bachelor.

And you agreed, knowing you really can fall in love on a TV show, and it can end badly?

Exactly. The first time I was skeptical because I didn't think it was real. The second time, I knew it was real, but I didn't know if I could put myself through it again. Not only is it emotionally exhausting, but it can be physically exhausting as well.

So I told them I needed a week to think about it and pray about it and talk to my family. Ultimately, I decided to do it, because I realized my feelings for Emily were very real and, as crazy as it sounds, you can develop those real feelings if you go in with the right frame of mind and an open heart.

I felt like I owed it to myself to give it one more try.

What exactly were you looking for in a potential love match?

I always said that I've got three criteria. I want someone with a really good heart, someone who is very genuine and loving and caring. On top of that, I want the woman for me to be intelligent, because I think a woman's intellect is so very attractive. And on top of that, I want someone with a great sense of humor. Because I love to have fun. I love to joke around. I don't live a very serious life.

Those are really the only three serious requirements I have. Outside of that, I want to be surprised. There are a lot of different girls on the show with different personalities and qualities. There are a lot of girls who I developed relationships with who I probably wouldn't have dated if I had met them in Dallas.

So it was almost good for me to experience all these different types of women.

That said, when the limos pulled up and more than two dozen women started piling out, did you have any second thoughts?

There were several moments when I thought, "What have I gotten myself into?" But at the end of the day, I always knew that it was the right thing to do.

There was a roller coaster of emotions throughout the entire journey. Sometimes I was scared out of my mind. But there were other times when I felt, "All these great women and they all seem to be attracted to me. I'm the luckiest guy in the world!"

After The Bachelorette and before The Bachelor, did you date much?

No. Only because the show brings along a lot of craziness. I would go out with friends and, of course, girls would come up and ask to take their picture with me. They'd want to talk to me.

And I was having a hard time trying to figure out, "Are these girls really interested in getting to know me? Or do they just want to be with the guy they saw on TV?"

So for that reason alone, I told myself, "I'm going to not date for a while. Let the craziness die down a little bit."

How comfortable are you at having a film crew follow you around, sometimes in intimate moments?

You get acclimated to it pretty quickly. It only takes a week or two and then you start to forget those cameras are there.

But there are still times when you are very aware that they're there. Especially in the more intimate moments, if you're having a very serious conversation or if you want to give someone a passionate kiss. That's when you're always aware that there is a camera there and there are sound people there.

It's a different feeling.

After it was announced that you were this season's Bachelor, did friends, family and even strangers pump you for secrets about the places you went and the things you did?

Friends and family understand there are certain things I can't reveal. But just normal everyday people that I run into here in Dallas, they try to get information any way they can.

They think they're being creative by asking these roundabout questions, just trying to pump the information out of me. But I'm wise to the game and I'm very tight-lipped about everything.

Because I hate it when spoilers get out.

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