More than a month ago, I wrote a column about a married couple I know that is trying to get pregnant. Over a dinner discussion of whether the husband would stop drinking along with his wife, in the event they should get pregnant, the fella made an impressively stupid remark about how it wasn't his fault that women were "cursed" by "God" with having to carry children. Wifey flipped out, and I'm pretty sure Hubby is still sleeping on the couch -- if not the back yard. I asked you, the reader, if his joke was out of line, and if you thought she overreacted. As always, you came through in a big way. Here are some of the responses:
Kevin believes the poor guy is the victim of a "vaginopoly," and has some ideas on how to settle his issues once and for all.
If I were this guy, and married (which I wouldn't be), I would just keep my mouth shut and get used to sucking it up for the rest of my married life. Because when you're a married man, you can't win. She has what you want. And she has a monopoly on it, unless you decide to sneak around, in which case, you'll probably get caught, because women have this thing called 'intuition.' He's the victim of a vaginopoly, and every man should try his hardest to avoid it. My advice to him: Divorce the hypersensitive b---- who can't take a joke before he ends up getting stuck with 18 years of child support. He should hire a surrogate if he really wants a kid, and spend the rest of his life not [kissing someone's butt]. And he should do what he really wants to do, but is too afraid to admit it, which is to bang as many chicks as he can.
Amanda buzz-kill is dropping science like the Kansas school board.
Studies show that it is actually better for the male to not consume alcohol a whole year prior to conception. It also shows men should be eating right and exercising. Those little guys swim better when they are not plagued by drunkenness and fast food.
Chris also sided with the hubby, and shudders to think how they behave when I'm not there to temper their angst.
It went wrong when the female told the male he'd have to stop drinking with her. I bet she was joking, but he replies with a joke about God cursing women with pregnancy and she goes ballistic? Imagine what it is like when they are alone. "Should I go on a diet too because you're fat?"
Equality and fairness are far from the same thing. I'm going on 10 years of marriage and I don't go with the "safe" answer. I care more about what is right than preserving the peace.
Thanks for the e-mails. Keep those responses rolling in, and I'll keep trying to give you fat to chew on. If you have a question you'd like me to answer, hit me up at firstname.lastname@example.org.