Y Me: Readers get real about fantasy cheating with sexy celebrities

Posted 7:52am on Wednesday, Jul. 18, 2012

A few weeks ago, I wrote about celebrity cheat lists, and how they are a means by which women manipulate men into staying faithful by pretending to be cool enough to let them cheat with a woman they will likely never meet. It's something that a lot of couples do when they get bored, and frankly I don't see the harm in it -- as long as men realize that our wives and girlfriends are not actually giving us the green light to fool around. Me getting to bang Liv Tyler is about as likely as us getting to do it in Middle Earth.

I asked you, the reader, to send me your cheat lists and your thoughts on the lists, and you responded in a big way.

Lauren asked her man to make a list so she could find out what type of woman he's attracted to. She then compared herself to his cheat list, turning the whole thing into an exercise in tearing down her own self-esteem.

Dear Yme,

I fall into the category of "I want to find out what my man is attracted to" [through] his fantasy cheat list. Do I compare myself to those women? Sure I do. Do I ever live up to his fantasy woman? Never. Seeing his fantasy girls in magazines, on TV or in a movie trailer triggers a tinge of jealously in me. The feeling is akin to finding that small scrap of torn paper with an unrecognizable phone number in his jacket pocket. I don't think I am unlike other women by having these feelings, or even by admitting that I do. However, I believe I am unlike other women in the fact that I prefer this occasional feeling. I prefer being challenged, and I prefer being made to stay on my toes. I like working for the man I have and I despise complacency, which I believe is the downfall of many relationships (and the onset of not-so-fantasy cheatings). Or perhaps I'm simply the female version of your Facebook i-PDA man-friends, and enjoy marking my territory by being the best arm and eye candy I can be.



I didn't know a couple of the ladies on Steve's list, but thanks to a Google image search I do now. Steve is man of great taste.

Dear Yme,

[My Wife] doesn't even know it, but here is my cheat list:

Bethany Consentino of Best Coast

Cameron Diaz

Gwyneth Paltrow

Amanda Seyfried

Mischa Barton



And finally, Angie admitted something that I suspect all women feel: When someone on her list gets married, she gets jealous.

Dear Yme,

One thing I find intriguing, and maybe it's just a girl thing, is that when one of these so-called Hollywood Hunks gets married or engaged, many times women actually feel a loss! Like we ever had a chance.

Here is my list: (a group of men that would never give me the time of day I am sure!)

Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson

David Beckham

Bradley Cooper

Ashton Kutcher

John Cena



Thanks for the responses. I'd really be impressed if there was a person who allowed his or her significant other to make a list of noncelebrities.

I know if I was allowed to make that list, I'd turn into the love-making equivalent of Uma Thurman's character in Kill Bill. I'd also be too insecure to allow my partner to make that list, since it's far easier for women to get booty. It's probably for the best that this exercise remains one of pure imagination.

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